Welcome Back!!!

Published September 3, 2010 by MrsQwnBee

Hi Everyone!!!  I’m sorry for my long absence. Summer home with my kiddos got me! But I’m back! YAY!

Now just a little about our Summer. My son graduated Kindergarten and then we went to California to see my daughter graduate High School!!

Both went really well. A little teary eyed, but I did not fall apart like I thought! We spent most of the Summer inside, suffering from Cabin Fever and Tag-Teaming Mom. (Lucky me!)  But as of Monday, the 30th of August–we were back to the School Time Schedule.

It’s been a tough adjustment–for me! I haven’t ever been up so early before! I think we’ve finally managed this hurdle–it only took 4 days to get into the swing of things!

My older son started FIRST GRADE this year and a FULL DAY of school! He’s managed it flawlessly! He and his brother decided months ago to give up taking naps–so it’s not a problem for them one bit. (Ugh for Mommy though!).

So this school year has been a HUGE Milestone for us.  For the last 3 years (my son went through Pre, Pre-K, Pre-K and Kindergarten), it has been a version of total hell. 

We would go through yelling, screaming, temper tantrums, door slamming, more screaming, hysterical crying, hardcore stubbornness and throwing up–ALL before the school bus came in the morning. (the bus driver even came to talk to me to check and see if he was OK, because he would sit and scream and cry the whole 10 minutes to school everyday.)

Then he wouldn’t talk, communicate, socialize or anything–with anyone at school. Not the kids, not the teachers–no one. It was, needless to say, an ordeal.

Last year in Kindergarten, his teacher told me that it’s a big shock to kids when they start Kindergarten, and a lot of them won’t even start to come out of their shell until after the Winter Break.

HOLY LORD!!! Really?

So after break, he finally starts to communicate–his way.  The teacher knew he had an IEP (Individual Education Plan), which signifies this kid has some “ism’s” to watch for.  So with that in mind, since he wouldn’t speak, she actually expected his first words to be a version of grunting.

One day, they were writing in class (just a sentence or a few words is all).  She asked him to write something down, like everyone else is doing.  He just looked up at her (yes, he actually had eye contact with her) and said very matter-of-factly, “Um, no. I just don’t feel like writing today” and chucks his pencil back down on the desk.  His teacher almost fell over!

My son is shy. Very shy. He takes his time getting comfortable with people (at least 20 minutes) and is like a dog–he knows right away if he’s dealing with a good person or not.

Like I said–this year really broke the mold. 

He was excited about starting school this year. We weren’t sure if he was just repeating words to make Mom and Dad happy of if he meant it. He actually meant it this time.

No crying, no screaming, no fits. None of the usual getting ready in the morning escapades.  He ate his breakfast, got dressed, got his backpack, got in the car–with NO PROBLEMS.  I’m still in amazement!

His teacher talks to me everyday when I pick him up (I love her–she is such a blessing and I think she realized really quick how much I worry about him). Each day gets even better. He is answering questions, talking with her and even shared in front of the class!!!


He is eating the school lunch in the cafeteria (he was deathly afraid of crowds and loud noises–so I was terrified he would go hide under a table) every day–it’s his pattern.  But this year, I am so proud to say, that we broke our 3 year record!

Now I know it’s only the first week, but he has done SO WELL and I am SO PROUD of him–I just can’t even believe it’s the same kid!

I’ll keep you all posted throughout the year in regards to him–but I am simply amazed! He’s starting to really come out of his shell and I couldn’t be prouder!!!!


If you have any comments about this, starting school, or want to yell out a “Holla” for your child too–I’d love to hear about it! 

Thank you so much for reading this and feel free to share it with another parent who’s scared and nervous for their child too.  It’s very reassuring to know that there are other parents out there with these kinds of issues too! I know it makes me like “I’m not the ONLY one out there.”  I’m here and so many more are too! There’s sanity in numbers!


4 comments on “Welcome Back!!!

  • Girl, I am glad things are looking up. Just remember there are always ups and downs but enjoy the ups when they happen!

    We had a good start to K other then the class sizes being MUCH too large (27 kids per K class.) Matthew has done well but he is a roll with the punches kind of kid.

    I know other parents who are struggling with it both because of their own issues and/or the kids are just getting used to it all. This parenting business is hard!

    In other news, congrats on the HS graduate! HOLY COW!

    • Thank you Christina!!!!
      I know–me with a High School graduate!! She started her first day of college this week too!! Waaaahhhh!
      I am so glad to hear that your son is doing so well in school! Mine started in Early Childhood Edcucation at the age of 3, and so we’ve always has concerns with him. And I felt so bad as I walked by a Mom dropping her daughter off this am. “I don’t like my Mommy anymore!”
      Ugh. The heartstrings!
      Yes, parenting IS hard. The toughest job you’ll ever love!
      It took me a long time to learn to just “Keep on Truckin” as they say in Love and Logic.
      But thank you so much for your comments!!! I always love to hear from other Moms (and friends), their own side of it!

  • Jennifer, I used to be a teachers assistant so I can understand everything you are going through. I worked with all types of physical and mental challenges. It’s interesting as I worked with some real tough cases. But it taught me a lot.

  • Oh WOW Joyce!! I had no idea!!!
    I am amazed at Teacher’s aides. They go thru the same things with the kids as the teachers but are rarely celebrated for their contributions.
    My older son had a TA last year that he really connected to. I just ran into her at the office last week, and her genuine love for my son and his success, even the fact she really missed him–came thru and really touched me.

    He is getting so much better–even than last year! Yee Haw!

    We have gone through testing, Autism type testing, Speech development, weekly, at home Speech tutoring, NEIS (Nevada Early Intervention Services), Early Childhood Education, and everything that goes with those things–JUST with my older son. But it’s finally showing that all of that has helped him grow so much!
    I even spoke with his teacher Friday, and it looks like he’s making his first friend!!!

    Thank you again for reading bits of my life!
    It means so much to have support of so many friends so far.
    It helps keep us ALL going!

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